Synopsis Rules For Life book By Jordan B Peterson.
I've always wanted to talk about Jordan B Peterson's "Rules for Life", I've read the book several times and borrowed it from the office library.
Even though I have the book and have read it several times I am afraid if I misinterpret the meaning of the book because the language used is full of psychological terms and is also full of references from the Bible which I am not too familiar with, therefore I also do a lot research by comparing what I understand with the summaries and reviews of other people who have read this book and also by rereading the book, this answer may be a bit long, you can bookmark / save the link first if you haven't had time to read it now, and make that already ready to read to the end, enjoy and hopefully useful for all of us :)
The following are reviews and lessons from books that can be applied to the life of this world:
√ Stand up straight with your chest out
Correcting our posture will make us more confident, stop slouching and look weak. Look straight ahead and do not bow because then not only other people will respect us and assume that we are people who are competent and reliable, but we ourselves will believe that we are the right person who is.
By correcting your posture, and looking confident, we will be more courageous to meet, discuss with other people and also start many new experiences. Correcting posture also shows the strength within us to accept responsibility and can always be strong in facing many obstacles such as losing loved ones, getting into problems in the world of work, etc.
So, posture is very, very important!
√ Treat yourself like people who need your help.
Have we ever been to our partners to always pay attention by telling them "Have you eaten yet?" "Take a break, don't stay up too late. You were back home overtime, you will be sick", "you have stopped eating indomie, he said you want to start a healthy lifestyle" and so on.
I've never been single: ') hahah not joking.
We are to people we care about, our partners, children, pets, good friends, must be very attentive, we often nag them to quickly take medicine when they are sick, to quickly rest when they are too busy at work and many others. But have we done the same to ourselves?
There is a quote that we often hear that is "Treat others the way you want to be treated" but often what we need more is "Treat yourself the way you treat the person you care about the most".
If you are in an unhealthy relationship, think to yourself "if my friend / my child / my brother experienced what I'm going through now, what would I suggest to them?" we certainly want the best for them right? do that to yourself first.
Maintain a body with a healthy diet, with a healthy environment by being healthy, both physically and mentally, then we can help the people we care about. So in essence, love ourselves first.
√ Make friends with those who wish you the best.
As social beings, of course we need other living things, one of which is friends. However, be careful in choosing friends, there are times when people we know can plunge us into negative things (for example, that the people who are trapped into a sect are from their own close friends).
There are also many friends who can bring us positive things, which provide comfort to us emotionally and can also give us a lot of positive experiences and lessons. Making friends does not need a lot, just positive people and encourages us to become a better person.
Compare yourself with yourself yesterday, don't compare with other people today.
Often times we compare ourselves with the achievements of others, often we feel that we are always lacking and left behind from most people. Especially in a digital era like now where it is easier for us to see the achievements of other people and this certainly makes us sadder and dissatisfied with whatever our achievements are because of how good your achievements are, someone out there will definitely make you feel even more left behind. .
This of course causes a lot of negative things to us, we hate these people more and hate ourselves. However, of course we cannot control other people, oh maybe if we live in a cave in a remote village and don't use the internet we can feel that we are the richest person in the world or the most beautiful person in the universe, it could be like that.
But if not, the best way is to focus on yourself, focus on developing your potential by setting targets to be yourself who is more than yesterday. For example, today I can push up 15 times, tomorrow I have to be able to push up and jogging as well, or today I managed to read 10 pages of a book, tomorrow I can read 15 pages and so on.
Be yourself who is better than yesterday, even though the progress is only 1%, but you today are the best version of the days ever.
√ Don't let your kids do something that makes you hate them
Why are you suddenly talking about children? yes at first I was surprised myself, but apparently this part is also very important.
By choosing to be a parent, a person has decided to be willing to take on a huge responsibility.
Parents who indulge in everything a child wants and never dare to say "no" will only raise someone who is difficult for society to accept. The child will later be confused why not everyone follows his wishes and other people will be disturbed by the child's selfishness so that no one wants to be friends with him.
Parents who cannot give full attention to their children, and do not give directions to their children, will make their children lose direction and confused about what is right to do or not.
A child who is not spoiled, who can be polite to others, does not like to do rude things, and a child who is honest and trustworthy, so wherever he goes he will easily make friends with anyone, his teachers will like him and adults will also love their presence. These children will be better prepared to face the world because the world will be kind to them.
So if you yourself realize there are some things in your child that you don't like (in terms of personality / behavior, and especially for children) then it's your responsibility as a parent to educate them, because if you don't like it yourself , let alone anyone else out there.
√ Tidy up your house first before you criticize the world.
Before we criticize other people, first introspect. Before we point our finger and blame others, it's good to stop for a moment and take a look at ourselves first.
Before we blame the capitalist system, blame ahem maybe the president, blame certain ethnicities who may be said to have stolen the jobs of the indigenous people ahem, let's do a self-reflection first.
Have we taken advantage of all the opportunities we get? have we been working optimally in our current job? Have we done the things we promised to do? Is there something we should be doing that could make things better around us?
"Have you tidied up your life?"
If the answer is not yet, start now to fix our lives first.
√ Pursue meaningful things (Not wise things)
Life is certainly not always happy, the goal of life is not to be happy because happiness certainly doesn't always last long, live a life that has meaning, and that meaning is different for each person, find meaning that suits each of us.
√ Tell the truth or at the very least, don't lie
Sometimes when we want to win an argument consciously or unconsciously we use the power of speaking to twist facts and attack other people's opinions to make it look the most correct, either to look smart in front of people or purely because of the ego to always sound right, we say things which we ourselves doubt the truth and ignore our conscience that says it is wrong.
By being fake people, we really hurt ourselves. Not only will the 'smarter' person immediately discover our lies but we ourselves will lead a restless life and sink into other falsehoods.
Just start talking honestly, if you are lonely say, if you feel vulnerable and need affection say, if you really don't want to go out playing on weekends with your friends say, if you feel hurt say. Say the truth, especially to yourself.
√ Assume that someone you hear about may know something you don't.
"The great majority of us cannot listen; we find ourselves compelled to evaluate, because listening is too dangerous. The first requirement is courage, and we do not always have it "- Carl Rogers
"Most of us don't want to listen; we find ourselves more inclined to evaluate, because listening is too dangerous. The first requirement is courage, and we don't have it forever" - Carl Rogers
By starting to be a good listener that can change a person's life, we will know and learn the mindset of people who are very different from us, different political views, views of life etc.
The key is to be a humble or humble person to want to open your heart and learn from others and not consider ourselves to be the ones who know best about something and make us close ourselves to knowing our shortcomings.
A wise person is one who realizes that what he knows is that he doesn't know anything.
√ Be clear about what we say
Ask ourselves, about where to take our life path? where are we now? if we don't know yet, this is our job to clarify and reinforce it because if we don't know the direction of our life goals, we will lose our direction and purpose.
Be sincere with all your words so you know the meaning of what you are saying, live your words so you know what will happen from it.
√ Don't disturb kids when they are skateboarding
One of the ways children can make good adults is when they have been exposed to dangers. Not a negative thing, yes, but there are parents who really don't want their children to experience the slightest bad things in their life, forbid their children to play too often for fear they will fall and get hurt, forbid their children to watch. a film that will make them see how miserable the world is out there.
It is the duty of parents to protect children from harm, but believing that their child is someone who is strong and able to rise from negative things will help them to build many survival skills that will be very useful in their lives when they grow up.
√ Pet the cat you find on the street
The cat here means that we have to be aware of the little things that bring beauty to life, sometimes we feel that we have become good people and do good things but still often get unlucky and feel this world is a truly unfair place.
It is better if we stop for a moment and look around us about the beautiful things that we may pass without our knowing it exists.
So that's all the synopsis and book review from Jordan B Peterson, maybe not everything he wrote in the book I agree 100% there are some things that I think are not in line with the values and beliefs that I hold. I continue to recommend this book to everyone and I myself am writing this summary to serve as a reminder to myself to start practicing some of the knowledge Peterson has provided in order to have a quality and meaningful life.
